Arroz Con Beans

I saw this and it reminded me of a post, cant recall if I actually published it. The subject popped in my head again last nite when reading Dlisted and seeing all the crap ppl were saying about Katie Price.

To make it quick- when all that fuss was going around about the horrible mothers taking pics of themselves nude or seminude with infants in the photos I said- and? always some bullshit. in every pic i have taken my kids were near and may have been in the pics if I hadnt cropped them out. infants and toddlers are not aware of what is going on at all, and if they were, parental nudity isnt going to scar them for life, if at all.
neglect? bad mothers? um, the mothers were all in the room WITH the kids, on the contrary these were children who were well supervised.

jordan(katie price) is a slut, a bad mother who should lose her kids because she went partying while her kids went on vacation with her soon to be ex husband. well goddamn.

and then this

http://contexts.org/socimages/page/2/
and this

http://contexts.org/socimages/2009/06/14/reversing-gender-roles-courting-family-disaster/

you know the issue is this. madonna or whore. a woman has a kid and is supposed to turn into a mother, a magical creature who no longer has any needs of her own. if the whore mothers had taken pics of themselves reading a book or painting the house while a toddler played in the corner, no one would have accused them of being bad mothers, though the level of supervision was probably even less than the ones taking pics. if katie price had been in some miserable place suffering, who would care.

but anytime a woman with children is seen doing something ENJOYABLE rather than being with her children, she’s a frivolous bitch and unfit
.I deal with it myself. I spent age 22-35 taking care of kids, the eldest is autistic. I gave up my education, my career goals, my social life and ultimately my ability to even leave the damned house. His behavior became progressively more unmanageable and eventually it led to a 6 month period of multiple hospitalizations (his, but shoulda been mine), and 20 phone calls a day fighting state agencies, schools and insurance companies. In October of 2007, he had to be hospitalized out of town. I took him up there on Friday, my brother took my other kids and told me to go get laid. And for the first time in years, I went out dancing.
THE GUILT WAS KILLING ME. BAD BAD BAD BAD mother, out dancing when your child is in the hospital. But I was like, and what the fuck will me staying home do? In fact, I actually did get laid by a cocky 24 year old whom I cant get rid of to this day. AND OH GOD THE GUILT.

Not only had I gone out while my son was all alone and sad and miserable and hospitalized, but I had forgotten him and drank and fucked. There is no greater sin against your children than to go have fun and be with a MAN when you should be with your kids.

When I want to go out now, I think to myself- and if somone breaks in the house and kills my teenaged daughter while I am at the club dancing I will never ever live it down. I wasnt buying food, I wasnt at the bank, I wasnt tending to their needs, I was tending to mine. And frivolous needs, the needs that a woman is supposed to ignore or not have once she becomes a mother.

Listen to the news, read the stories. How many times do they take pains to mention that a mother was in bed with her boyfriend or having drinks or at a party when her child fell down the stairs or got shot or something. It is acceptable to be at work and have a child trip and fall and hit his head, poor mom was at work slaving when they finally reached her to say lil Johnny had an accident. Let that slut have been at a party, its a case of child abandonment and neglect in that case.

As a society we find it very very offensive when a woman is having fun and her children are not with her. Even if the children are with their father or otherwise well cared for. Even if the woman has been with the kids every day for years.
Its such bullshit.